Lust. Infatuation. Or Love?

“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” ― Dr. Seuss

Look, I'm sorry I didn't pick up writing blog posts for a long time, and I'm pretty sure you will not be looking forward for this subject as much as you did for my other "inventive" short stories. So, if you have already started reading this, why not finish it?

I'm going to straight away start from the basics - The Definitions.

Lust - strong sexual desire.
Infatuation - an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something.
Love - (n) a strong feeling of affection. (v) feel deep affection or sexual love for (someone).

Well, there is a lot of difference between each one of them. And that is something really complex to find out what kind of feeling we're "actually" feeling. Of course, every guy who's in infatuation says that he/she loves the other person just as much as a person who's "actually" in love. But what's that cuts the ice?

It's the feelings - in itself.

All you got to do to figure out all of this is to sit in a quiet place, and have some peaceful time with just you, and your mind. Doing a bit of research, I found out this interesting comparison - might as well share it here:

• Love develops gradually over time. Infatuation occurs almost instantaneously.
• Love can last a long time. It becomes deeper and more powerful over time. Infatuation is powerful, but short-lived.
• Love accepts the whole person, imperfections and all. Infatuation flourishes on perfection – you have an idealized image of your partner and you only show your partner your good side.
• Love is more than physical attraction. Infatuation focuses on the physical.
• Love is energizing. Infatuation is draining.
• Love improves your overall disposition. Infatuation brings out jealousy and obsessiveness. It causes you to neglect other relationships.
• Loves survives arguments. Infatuation glosses over arguments.
• Love considers the other person. Infatuation is selfish.
• Love is being in love with a person. Infatuation is being in love with love.

So are you in love? Or is it just an infatuation. Let's find out.

Infatuation deals with that happy face of love. It gives you a million reasons to smile, it gives you day dreams, and it gives you another dozen reasons to be stupid. It is, of course, a short lived feeling for someone and is often termed as "crushes" towards other mates.

Infatuation is a wonderful feeling as long as it is not mistaken for love. Infatuation is when all you see is your crush's perfections. All you do when you see him/her with others is get jealous. All you care about is seeing him/her again just so that you can get that rush of adrenaline. Infatuation is when you get all possessive about him/her. You love him/her for the reason why you fell for them. You don't really acknowledge him/her for the way he/she actually is. You try to hide faults, and show only the perfect side of yours. You see butterflies when he/she walks past, and well just everything that is shown in the movies. It's when you start becoming obsessive about that person. But all that hardly lasts for a longer time. Some day, it'll just end. And that. Precisely that, is what separates it from love.

But love, it's something totally different. Love is a serious thing. It's a really serious thing that grows gradually as the time goes by. It's when you accept the other person with all his/her flaws, all their perfections, and imperfections. It's when you don't care who he's/she's talking to, you don't really get jealous, but you look for his/her happiness instead.  You can sacrifice everything of yours just to make her/him feel better about themselves.

It's when before you taste something good, you think about your love's reaction towards that happy incident - you'll think about how happy he/she would feel if they tried this out. It's when you put him/her before yourself. It's when you devote your entire life to the person you love the most. Love is all about security, trust and loyalty. In infatuation, there will be a lot of reasons for you to break up. But when you're in love, even if there's only one reason to hold on, it'll be enough for you to not break up. Love is when you purposefully lose an argument against him/her just so that you both don't fight.

Love is celebration. Unlike infatuation, which drains you out if you don't get to see that person you desire for, love keeps you happy. Love keeps you going. Love is when you do little sacrifices and never let your pride take control of yourself. Love is when you start changing for the better. Love is the fuel, and mind is the vehicle. Love is commitment. Love is when you choose "we" over "me". Love is when you both work together to build a good life.

Love is that strength which keeps you going when everything around you goes to hell. Love is that feeling which keeps you in check. Before you do any action, you think the consequences that would affect "we" instead of "me". It's when you lose all those selfish thoughts about yourself and make sacrifices for the person you love and you would really not boast about these sacrifices because boasting is not what you did them for, it's the care and affection you've got for them that made you do the sacrifices.

Love is when you have confidence in him/her even when you both might not be together. It's about holding on tight when everyone tell you to leave. Love is when you panic if you aren't aware of what your love's condition is. It's when you start crying (being a guy or a girl, never be shy of crying) over the thought of your love getting hurt. Love is that feeling which makes you who you are.

Love is experienced in the present moment. It makes you forget all those sad memories and tension of the future, and just let's you be who you are. Love makes you complete.

So, that was about it. I know, a pretty long post about "love","infatuation" and all, but hey, lust is still left out. But, that is not a very big deal either.

Lust is basically a strong desire towards the opposite gender because of their physical attraction, and nothing more. It lasts for a very little time, and can sometimes grow into infatuation. That's all.

So all my lovers out there, happy Hallowe'en! Cheers!

References:
http://www.srcp.org/for_some_parents/developmental_disabilities/the_specifics/infatuationDD.html
http://www.diffen.com/difference/Infatuation_vs_Love
http://www.yourtango.com/experts/janet-ong-zimmerman/am-i-love-how-know-sure#.VFOP6_mUeSo

Doing just nothing!

"A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life yet."

Well, there's something freaky in store for you in case you have lost your mind reading my previous blog posts. So, what exactly are you doing when you do nothing? Yes, you read that right, what are we doing when we are doing nothing. Just nothing. The answer is as simple as the question: "Nothing".

If we go look clearly, our body is doing a huge amount of work even when we are not doing anything. This work is done so that our body's essential processes do not stop, and we keep ourselves healthy and running! So, how much exactly is our body doing when we pretend to do nothing? You'll be surprised that an average school going boy of height 65 inches and his age being 15 years spends about 1393.81 calories when he is doing nothing. That is pretty impressive, right?

That is not all, when you do nothing, you waste 60 seconds with every minute passing by. And if you are a couch potato, and spend an average of an hour everyday doing nothing then you actually waste 365 hours doing nothing every year. And believe me, in these 365 hours, you can do fabulous things, instead of just lying down, and doing nothing. Indeed, small hours get together to make a big year! Well said, nah?

To continue giving you shocks, let me ask you something, how many of us have seen those second hands in a clock stay in one position for a little longer than usual. This usually happens when we quickly look at the clock and then turn to look at an object away from the clock, and then suddenly, look at the clock again.The second hand would appear to move from where you first saw it, but in reality, you are seeing it after around 3 seconds.(This wholly depends on how long you look at the other object!)

Well, I would not go into details, but those fraction of seconds that our brain loses to capture, add up to an huge amount in a course of an entire day. To get you up your chair, 40 minutes of sight are lost everyday when we move our eyeballs. Pretty awesome, right?

Hmm..that said, I don't think that we would stop telling people that we are doing nothing. But yes, in the back of our minds, we would certainly know that while we are doing nothing, we are actually doing a lot of things unknowingly. Happy working, guys and gals!

Sixth Sense : Concept or hidden truth?

"Woah! Is someone standing behind me? Or is it just my weird feeling! No wait... its my sixth sense, right?"

We have seen it in Spiderman as the "Spidey Sense", we have seen it in Superman, we have seen it in almost every super hero, but have we seen it in us? Actually, there has to be someone who actually felt this sense before and decided to make up a fictional character, and since Science proved us that we have only five senses, it was a instant hit!

Now what's weird is that, we ourselves feel this every now and then. How many of us had that weird feeling that some one is behind our back, or maybe the feeling of some one watching us, or that feeling that someone is looking into our direction, even though we are not looking towards them? All the questions have one and only one answer, its our Sixth Sense working for us!

Pretty awesome right? But obviously, this doesn't mean that we can pull out web from our hands, or probably circle around the earth.. that's all truly fictional folks! Scientist have been working real hard to prove this awesome feature of our body as a truth, and so far, its all good news. It seems to me that there is a pigment layer in our eyes which can sense small amounts of heat and presence around us, and via nerves sends messages to our brain.

Since we all know our bodies are made up of heat, this might sound convincing. But still, proves are to be handed! Well, we all do feel it at times, and most of the times, we end up seeing someone behind us. Science tells us that there are different ways to which different brains of different people react. Some are more sensitive to presence around us, while some do not feel any thing at all. It completely depends on the capacity and power of the brain. But, in general, the sixth sense plays an important role.

One thing should be taken care of here is, note that sixth sense should not be compared to visions. Both are entirely different concepts. I accept the fact that it would be fun to compare those two around some time later! Right now, sixth sense, is true? Or is just a fictional power?

Actually, its totally up to you to decide whether this is true or not. But I consider this to be a topic which needs a serious lift. How many of us have that feeling of guilt that some one is watching us when we are doing something wrong? Maybe its just the sub conscious mind working, or maybe... its the sixth sense playing a role again? The real surprise comes to us when we prove ourselves that some one was actually watching us! See, the whole point of this post is to help you decide whether you want to believe in this or not.

Next time when you feel that some one is standing behind you, or whether someone is looking at you, try giving a serious thought to this! Cheers!

Source(s): 
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20111105220849AA8OiWb
http://scienceblog.com/7036/brain-study-points-to-sixth-sense/
http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/institute_basic_biomedical_sciences/news_events/articles_and_stories/vision_blindness/200704_sixth_sense.html
http://www.wisc-online.com/objects/ViewObject.aspx?ID=AP14304